“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” (1 Cor. 13:7-8a)
Throughout the entire thirteenth chapter of 1 Corinthians, the apostle Paul emphasizes one word over and over again… love. He starts by telling that we can have amazing gifts of tongues, prophecy, faith, and even self-sacrifice; but if we fail to have love, then we simply fail.
He goes on to tell us several of the many facets of love: it is “patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.” (v. 4-6) Think of the loved ones in your life: family, friends, spouses, children… even your exes. How many times has failure to live up to this standard cost those relationships dearly?
Have you ever came to that point; that instant or stretch of time when you felt that love had somehow… ended? What was it that brought you to that point? In that moment, you must ask yourself, did I ever love that person at all? For clearly, if love never ends, perhaps it was never there to begin with. Or hopefully, it’s always been there and you never fell from love.
I’ve seen marriages fall apart for a variety of rediculous reasons. Multiple times I have heard of a marriage murdered because one person, ‘;just wanted to live like they were young again,’ so they forfeit their vows for a selfish ambition that will only hurt them in the end. Personally, I doubt that person was ever genuinely in love their spouse. I honestly feel that person really just needed some security and marriage seemed like a good fit for the moment.
One of the stories that broke my heart to hear was, ‘;my spouse accepted Christ, wanted me to do the same, and I said no.’ For a marriage to be so paper thin and fragile, that something like accepting Christ (the greatest reason in life to rejoice) was the straw which broke the camal’s back; I wonder if love was ever truly present for that person. If that individual ever reads this, I hope they turn and chase back after the amazing person God gave them, who expressed such an earnest concern for their spouse’s salvation, that it cost their marriage.
Love never fails. At times it may be easy, while at other times you must fight to keep it alive. At times you may keep your guard down, while at other times you may need to prevent serious wounds. At times there is peace, while at other times there will be war. At times there will be no enemy to fight, while at other times you will have to hunt to remove it. At times there will be rest, while at other times there will be a need for rescue. At times words aren’t necessary, while at other times they are detrimental.
There are those who know love and enjoy displaying it at every oppurtunity, then there are those who never have. Which side of the comma you’re on, is entirely up to you.